For a variety of reasons enrolled at Oklahoma Christian College (OCC). OCC is a small private school allied with the Churches of Christ located in Edmond Oklahoma. For all the problem I have with the school it has a decent academic program. There were also two very important attributes that made it attractive. It was far enough away from home that my Mom wouldn’t just show up and it was close enough that it was easy enough to get back for holidays and breaks.

My first year passed without too many incidents. I skipped daily chapel and classes a lot which put me on probation but nothing too serious. Probation meant that I couldn’t join the basketball team, hold a student council office or join their version of a fraternity. None of these was a big loss in my view.

My second year was a bit wilder. I flaunted or outright rebelled against the authority of the school. The residence hall advisor (RA) knew I was drinking but I was smart enough to always be clean on campus so he never had proof. A bottle of whiskey was planted in my room and the RA was given an anonymous tip. That put me on probation again and had the added penalty of being required to attend alcohol abuse counseling. My defense against the whiskey was that if I was going to risk punishment for bringing a bottle on campus I would have cracked the seal and had a drink. Why leave a perfectly good bottle of booze on the shelf in my closet and not have at least one drink?

A month or so after the whiskey incident a friend was getting a few guys together for a party in his room. There was booze, beer and porno. We were hanging out, drinking, watching and chatting when the RA and a couple of his cronies came into the room. Busted! The RA collected all the booze and videos then escorted us all into the common area of the dorm while his cronies guarded the doors to keep out anyone else and prevent our escape. One by one we were called into his office, tested by brethalyzer and asked to give a statement.

I knew I was going to get expelled. This was my second strike for an alcohol related offense and I knew I would not be given another chance. So when it was my turn I told the RA that it was my party. I bought all the booze and rented the videos. I coerced everyone to be there. I got them all drunk and if I hadn’t been the instigator the party wouldn’t have happened.

In the morning I was called to the Dean of Men’s office and informed that I was expelled from school. I had to call my Mom and tell her right then and I had to be off campus by end of the weekend. He then told me that the expulsion wasn’t permanent and I could return in a year to finish my degree. I tried to return, but the expulsion screwed up my financial aid and could never raise the money.

As far as I know everyone else at the party eventually graduated. The only regret I have about the whole episode was calling my Mom the next morning. That was very hard. I wanted to wait until she was home, but they made me call her right there at work. Sadistic bastards.

I just received an email from my brother. I'm proud of him the little stinker!

Just thought I would drop you a quick note to let you know that the grade for my final class has come in and it is an 'A'. That gives me a perfect 4.00 GPA on my MBA and a overall GPA of 3.98 for all of my graduate studies.

Now if I could just brainwash, er convince, him to move out this way. As much as he's into camping and hiking I know he'd love the area.

hollyking: (ahead full)

I'm a member of the Unitarian Universalist Community Church of Washington County, which is a part of the Unitarian Universalist Association. There are many reasons why I'm a Unitarian Universalist (UU), chiefly among them are the seven principles that guide us. They are:

  • The inherent worth and dignity of every person;
  • Justice, equity and compassion in human relations;
  • Acceptance of one another and encouragement to spiritual growth in our congregations;
  • A free and responsible search for truth and meaning;
  • The right of conscience and the use of the democratic process within our congregations and in society at large;
  • The goal of world community with peace, liberty, and justice for all;
  • Respect for the interdependent web of all existence of which we are a part.

These principles match my own personal principles and I've found a great community of people to share my spiritual journey. On Saturday I went to a workshop and was stunned by the number of folks who came up and asked me about my job search and offered help or contacts to find work. Today during the service there were even more offers of help. Beyond that the concern, care and support shown to [ profile] hollyqueen and I last spring during our mourning made a big difference.

The church has been working on a plan to build a new building with classrooms and a social hall on the existing property. I really like the plan because it will keep the existing building as the sanctuary while giving us more room for classes and activities. Since I have so much spare time I volunteered to help with the capital campaign to raise the funds needed. This is a real stretch outside of my comfort zone, but I think it's an important project and I've been stagnating long enough. If this time off has taught me anything it's that I have to jump start a few things in my life because the status quo is obviously not working.

A lot of people use the dark time of the year to study and integrate what they've learned durning the last year. For once I think I'll join them and spend December thinking about the changes I need to make. One of the big decisions is whether I can really make the switch to going back to school full time. Not only that, but should I take that step? I've talked about going to school a lot in the past but now I need to really decide if I'm going to make that leap. I don't have to worry about work interfering with classes so if not now, when?

I would also like to make progress in my spiritual life. I've been all over map in my past, but I feel something inside of me that needs to grow and emerge. For part of that I'll be reading a lot of books that have been sitting on my list. In another comfort stretching move I'm going to write about some of the thoughts that have been bouncing around in my head. I think I have a lot of good things to say but not being a very accomplished writer I've been nervous about posting any of them. Well one way to become better at expressing my thoughts in words is to write them out. I can only get better with practice, and perhaps a bit of gentle feedback.

Wow! This is getting long and I've strayed from my original reason for posting. My original idea was to mention becoming a member of the Communications Team for UUCCWC Capital Campaign. I guess one of the first things to work on is deciding on a message for each post and making sure I stay on topic and complete my thoughts. I'm not going to go back and edit this post because I think it will be useful when I review this later and I don't know if anybody read this far. What's brown and sticky? A stick. There's a little treat for those of you who made it this far.


Nov. 10th, 2005 10:46 am
hollyking: (ahead full)

Crap I used to make a lot of money. I know I had a good salary but I just had it thrust in my face again. I was filling out the FAFSA forms to see what kind of financial aid I could get to go back to school. Probably not very much at all. Sigh.



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